I'm Edwige Theokas.

Licensed Professional Counselor and EMDR therapist for women in midlife and perimenopause. In person in Bordentown, NJ, and by telehealth across New Jersey and Florida.

I've sat with women through their hardest chapters since 2002. Today my practice is small on purpose: accomplished women in perimenopause and the transitions that arrive with it.

Why this work, and why me

I grew up as the daughter of immigrants, with the quiet job of proving I could get it right. I carried that into a career that looked good on paper and was slowly wearing me down. What changed things was my own work: EMDR, sandplay, and finally letting someone hold the whole picture.

Now I'm 48, in perimenopause, and raising two young children with my husband. I'm not studying this season from a distance. I'm in it, and that is why I built the practice I wish I'd been able to find.

Here is what women find in the room with me:

• A steady nervous system to lean on. When yours is running hot, mine stays settled. That's co-regulation, and it gives your body a chance to stand down before we go anywhere deeper.

• An anchor while the ground moves. You don't have to have it figured out to start. I'm the fixed point while everything else shifts.

• A path out of the chaos. Bring me the whole tangle: the hormones, the grief, the job, the marriage, the kids. I'll help you turn it into a path, one clear next step at a time.

• Patterns, seen fast. I notice patterns quickly. Often in our first session I can name the thread running through what felt like ten separate problems.

What I believe

• Midlife is a transition, not a breakdown. You don't need to blow up your life. You need to understand what is ending and what is still standing.

• The body keeps the schedule. Hormones, sleep and an exhausted nervous system shape what therapy can reach. I work with all three.

• Depth needs time. Fifty minutes is often enough to open something and too short to finish it. That's why so much of my work happens in two-hour sessions and intensives.

• The whole woman is welcome. Your faith, your spirituality, your garden, your closet. Healing happens in the full texture of a life, not only in a therapy room.

How I work

I use the Midlife Transition Method: Name it, Grieve it, Untangle it, Build it. Inside it I draw on EMDR, Jungian sandplay, IFS-informed parts work and somatic practice. In-person sessions sometimes include a walk by the river in historic Bordentown.

I'll be warm, direct and occasionally funny. I'll also lovingly call you on your BS.

Training and credentials

• Licensed Professional Counselor, New Jersey, #37PC00631700

• Florida out-of-state telehealth provider, registration #TPMC8661

• EMDRIA Certified Therapist in EMDR

• National Certified Counselor (NBCC)

• Sandplay therapy, Level III

• Registered Yoga Teacher (RYT-200)

• M.A., Clinical Mental Health Counseling, The College of New Jersey

• M.Ed., Rutgers University

• B.A., Psychology, New York University

• Speaker: Princeton University, The College of New Jersey, Rider University

Outside the office

Books, dance music, Bach, baking, a garden I'm enthusiastically trying to keep alive, and my two favorite people under four feet tall.