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Self-Sabotage: Tips for Navigating and Overcoming Self-Sabotaging Behaviors. Part II



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Self-Sabotage: Tips for Navigating and Overcoming Self-Sabotaging Behaviors.

Part II

 

Tips for Navigating and Overcoming Self-Sabotaging Behaviors

 

In Part I of this blog series, we explored the role of self-sabotage and how the subconscious plays a role in sabotaging our goals. Self-sabotage prevents many people from reaching their full potential. But we can change how our subconscious operates so that we can finally achieve the goals that we set for ourselves. In this blog post, I’ll share tips on how to reprogram your mind for success.


The Subconscious Mind’s Role in Self-Sabotage


As noted in the previous post, the subconscious mind stores all your experiences, beliefs, and habits. It influences how you react to situations, whether you realize it or not. To foster long-lasting permanent change, we must begin to analyze and deconstruct these long-held beliefs and habits.


Recognizing self-sabotage is the first step, but changing deeply ingrained habits and thought patterns requires a combination of self-awareness, practical strategies, and consistent effort.


Change requires you to use conscious and intentional behaviors that will seep into the subconscious mind.


Below are several tips to help navigate and overcome self-sabotaging behaviors by addressing the root causes in the subconscious.


Tips for Dealing with Self-Sabotage


1. Identify Your Self-Sabotaging Patterns

The first step in overcoming self-sabotage is to recognize when and how it shows up in your life. Start by reflecting on moments when you’ve felt stuck, failed to follow through on goals, or engaged in behaviors that derailed your progress. Ask yourself:


- What was I thinking or feeling before the behavior occurred?


- Was there a specific trigger?


- How did the behavior serve me, even if it had a negative outcome?


 - How did this behavior "protect" me, even though it was obviously counterproductive?


By identifying the specific behaviors and triggers, you can begin to develop greater self-awareness and understand the underlying subconscious patterns at play.


2. Challenge Limiting Beliefs

Since limiting beliefs often fuel self-sabotage, it’s important to challenge these thoughts when they arise. When you notice a negative belief like “I’m not good enough,” ask yourself:


- Is this belief based on fact, or is it a story I’ve internalized?


 - Did someone in the past tell me that I wasn’t good enough? Who are they and do I care about them?


- What evidence exists in your own life or in someone else’s life that contradicts this belief?

- How would I act if I didn’t believe this about myself?


By regularly challenging limiting beliefs, you can begin to question beliefs that don’t make sense. You can then begin to break the cycle of negative thinking and replace it with more empowering, supportive thoughts.


3. Reprogram Your Subconscious Mind

*Please note that this requires a long-term commitment. Imagine that you have heard a certain message your whole life and believe this to be a part of your identity. Implementing these techniques will not undo years of messaging and negative self-beliefs.


To truly break free from self-sabotage, you need to reprogram the subconscious mind consistently and repetitively. You need to reframe past experiences and perceive experiences from a different point of view.


This can be done through techniques like:

- Affirmations: Positive affirmations can help rewire the brain by replacing negative beliefs with empowering ones. Repeating affirmations like “I deserve success” or “I am capable and worthy” over and over and over again can help change your internal dialogue.

- Visualization: Imagine yourself succeeding and achieving your goals. By visualizing positive outcomes, you create a mental blueprint that your subconscious will begin to follow.

- Hypnotherapy: Working with a trained hypnotherapist can help access and reprogram subconscious beliefs that may be driving self-sabotage.

- Journaling: Writing down your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs can help bring subconscious patterns into the light. Journaling prompts like “What fears are holding me back?” or “How do I sabotage myself?” can help uncover hidden beliefs.


4. Focus on what you consume

Changing your subconscious requires you to become much more aware of your surroundings and who you surround yourself with. Are you listening to content that creates fear or reinforces the beliefs that you currently hold? Are you spending time around people who constantly complain and perceive that life is unfair? Are you surrounded by things that tempt you to just give up?


You must begin to analyze your “diet” and do a detox.


Perhaps you begin to listen to stories of success and inspiration. You follow pages that make you believe that anything is possible. You reduce the amount of time you spend with those who complain and begin to befriend positive and uplifting people. Allow yourself to choose how you spend your time (i.e. mindlessly scrolling vs. reading about the goals you’d like to achieve). You begin to discover more and more opportunities and people who align with the goals that you want to achieve.


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5. Practice Mindfulness and Self-Awareness


Mindfulness is a powerful tool for overcoming self-sabotage because it encourages you to become more aware of your thoughts, feelings, and actions in the present moment. By practicing mindfulness, you can catch self-sabotaging behaviors as they arise, allowing you to make conscious choices rather than falling into automatic patterns.


Mindfulness techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or body scanning can help you stay grounded and make intentional decisions that support your goals.


6. Set Small, Achievable Goals

Self-sabotage often occurs when goals feel overwhelming or too ambitious. To counteract this, break larger goals down into smaller, more manageable tasks that appear more manageable.


For example, tell yourself that you will read one page a day, instead of claiming to finish a Master’s program in one year. Choose to add a piece of fruit to your meal instead of overhauling your entire diet. Try getting out the door and walking for five minutes instead of telling everyone that you’re going to complete a marathon.


Achieving small wins may seem insignificant, but it can help build confidence and momentum, making it easier to avoid procrastination or giving up entirely.

By setting realistic goals and celebrating incremental progress, you signal to your subconscious mind that success is attainable and safe.


7. Self-Compassion Over Self-Criticism

When you catch yourself in self-sabotaging behavior, it’s easy to fall into a cycle of self-criticism. Instead, practice self-compassion. Acknowledge the behavior, but remind yourself that change is a process and that slipping up is part of the journey. By treating yourself with kindness, you create a healthier mindset that is more conducive to growth.


8. Embrace setbacks and expect failure.

Be prepared for your subconscious to do everything in its power to sabotage you. It does not want you to change, and it does not want to be uncomfortable.


Imagine that your subconscious has lived a comfortable existence keeping you in a state of fear and worry, and now you are trying to kick it out or get rid of it. Have you ever known someone in your real life that you’ve tried to get rid of and they just won’t go away simply because you want them to, or because you told them once or twice?


Your subconscious will not go quietly into oblivion without a fight. It will present you with fear and many logical reasons why changing is not in your best interest. And at times, you will succumb to the fear or the fatigue.


Fighting deeply ingrained beliefs and an unsupportive social environment can be exhausting. And the subconscious will be ready to make you question your choices. As long as you know this, you can reframe the setbacks as just being part of the process. When you catch yourself in self-sabotaging behavior, it’s easy to fall into a cycle of just giving up and returning to an “easy” life.


Acknowledge the behavior, get support and keep going. Over time, the new behavior will become automatic and these will become “easy”.


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You need support


9. Create a Support System

Overcoming self-sabotage can be difficult to do alone, so it’s essential to create a support system. Surround yourself with people who encourage your growth and hold you accountable for your actions.


Whether it’s a support group, a close friend, mentor, or therapist, having someone to talk to and be held accountable to can ensure that you keep up with your goals when your subconscious tries to sabotage you (and it will). Gaining inspiration and perspective from others can make a significant difference in helping you succeed.


Conclusion

Self-sabotage is a deeply rooted behavior often driven by the subconscious mind, but it doesn’t have to control your life. By becoming aware of your patterns, challenging limiting beliefs, and reprogramming your subconscious, you can break free from these self-destructive habits and create a life that aligns with your true desires.


Taking control of your subconscious mind opens the door to personal growth and success. Remember, self-sabotage may be a part of your past, but it doesn’t have to dictate your future.


You can do it!

 



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